I have been a much introverted person since young but grown to accustomed to the vibrancy of the world to be outward social and much of career favors such personality.
However as I grow older, I see myself slipping into this hole back again unconsciously.
Learning to accept who I am and be what I am takes a great deal unless i am entirely not bother with the societal should bes.
I’m getting better in recognizing humans are fallible so there is no need to get anyone’s approval. Emotional well being will be a swinging pendulum if I based my actions on people’s approval which to me is not desirable.
I just need to be in the present, living it and that all it matters. 🙂
Thesedays I look at the stock market and wonder what’s a value buy anymore….
For the working, we look forward to Fridays else significant public holidays like Christmas or Chinese New Year for a break from work. After which we are back to the grind till we repeat the above again.
When did work become a dread?
In the short employment in the current company, I have seen 9 people leaving of which many were managed out and a few voluntary. Their age range – 40s, 50s and couple in their 30s.
I was catching up with some customers and they were asking me on the company outlook in general (mostly dubious). That leaves me thinking of my predicament and how I’ll fare eventually. Instead of worrying, I shall give my best and if it’s time I’ll let go.
Nothing is lost, only time. Also maybe it will propel me to look at career alternative sooner than expected.
A 20+ year old colleague was sharing on the intention to get a house recently.
Her bf and her combined income exceed the BTO income ceiling, hence she is toying with idea of buying a private property which I reckon would cost at least 1.5 million.
I gave a few insights to her :-
While they earn more than their peers now (which gives them more spending power) but by spending more on housing will close up their gap of dispensable income.
By forking up cash on top up cpf to service a housing loan is not ideal because they lose the opportunity cost to invest.
Moreover using a substantial amount of your working life to service a mortgage means no disruption to livelihood allowed unless one have enough war chest. Nobody can guarantee an earning income for decades unless one have the financial backing from family to tide through any mishap. (Sidenote if mortgage interest is lower than Hdb loan interest, then it makes more sense to not pay up ASAP)
Even if her family are willing to sponsor some money for the house down payment, they would be better off to use that money to invest or form their 12 months emergency fund (1st line of defence).
I concluded with the opinion that time and financial peace is immensely valuable. By using the time during their strong earning years to invest means they has plenty of time to compound their investment. And she will thank herself in 20 years time when she is in her early 40s while some of her peers may likely face a dead end job or a stagnant career or worst retrenchment, which she would have the choice to pursue anything she want without having to worry about expenses or cruise along still.
Mum was recently hospitalised for a heart bypass surgery at age 58. Mum is also on long term medication for her high blood pressure, high cholesterol and is currently considered a pre-diabetic.
A bit of family medical history :-
- My maternal grandma died of heart attack before 60
- My eldest aunt died of heart attack in her early 40s
- Maternal grandfather died of terminal colon cancer at the age of 72.
Hence I believe genetically my siblings and I are prone to heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol (last check my LDL cholesterol is on the high side) and colon cancer.
On the paternal side, they are quite long lived and do not have major ailments or life long disease like high blood pressure. My grandfather lived till his 80s. Currently my dad is 66. He has just completed his stage 3A cancer treatment and is recovering well. He has always lead a healthier lifestyle than my mum.
By assessing parents’ lifestyle and using historical stats, I do think my dad will likely outlive my mum.
This makes me think if I’d not outlive CPF age for retirement account withdrawal and if I should tweak my strategy to not rely on CPF life payout that much as I may not live till then?
If only I don’t feel affected by the things that happened at work…
I look forward to the end of all these BS.
And it didn’t helped much seeing some of my colleagues being asked to go.
Careers are indeed short lived these days.
February has come, we are left with 10 months plus in the year.
- pumped in 7k into own CPF SA
- have set aside 12 months of emergency fund (cash) for the family.
- dad completed his ULAR surgery
- saved 50% of take home salary
- bought some bluechip (dividend share)
- renewed nail package
- spent a fair bit on clothings
- Dad ULAR surgery came up to 26k which is heavily subsidized due to the ward chosen, integrated private shield and medisave there is no cash upfront required.
- Mum scheduled for heart bypass surgery
- Settle accommodation/flights to Perth
- Explore new electricity provider plan
- Say bye to our car, we are going carless.
- Explore renewal of home internet and paid cable TV
- Looking to have lose at least 8 kg
- Perth trip
Goals for this year
- spend less on non core items like clothings or wants
- save 50% of take home salary at least
- lose weight by oct 2019
Back to nov 2015 weight! SOS if only bank ac balance can grow this fast as weight gain
I’m determined to lose weight 10kg before oct 2019 for better health
The easiest way out to everything is to blame or 太极☯️away at the workplace. Most people have no qualms covering themselves first when shit hits.
I cannot imagine that I’ve to get stuck in such depravity for 10-20 years.
For now; I shall tahan until FI comes, yes 养兵千日，用在一朝